Are You Content?

I only ask because it’s been on my mind lately. Hubby and I have been house hunting – what started as a bit of fun morphed into something more serious just before Christmas and we’ve spent the last few months reading through real estate listings and viewing houses. We’re also considering land, in case we decide to build. But more and more I’ve been asking myself, ‘why?’

We like our house and we have a beautiful garden. We’ve planted fruit trees which, if we moved, we would never taste the fruit of. What is it we’re looking for? And if we bought or built a new house would we really be more content?

So, I’m asking you. Are you content and if so/if not, why? Is contentment just a state of mind and how do you know if you’re on the right path in journey towards contentment?

5 thoughts on “Are You Content?

  1. theeditorsjournal says:

    Love it! My kinda question lol! And this particular theme I have been formulating a similar post around for a while coincidentally.
    MY query stemmed from a book Bob Geldof wrote a hundred years ago called ‘Is That It?’ A feeling of climbing a mountain and getting to the top then realising that you are still hugely unfulfilled or that feeling of ‘meh’.
    And gosh even more coincidentally I was watching a film only yesterday where one of the characters stated exactly the same thing, only with my horrendous memory I can’t remember which film it was. It wasn’t “As Good As It Gets’ with Jack Nicholsen but HIS query in that film is something I come back to all the time also, ‘Is this as good as it gets?’

    To answer your lead question. No, I’m not content. But I think I’m one of the few who with a few tweaks here and there could absolutely be. I have no need to chase more than I need which means once those tweaks are tweaked(!) I reckon I would be almost entirely content.

    I am fascinated as to why you are house hunting if it is not an essential need (as that is how it comes across in your post). That’s not to suggest that it is not legitimate to move just for the ‘why not?’ of it. I guess I’m used to folk who move for necessity: downsizing, work, larger family etc so the question of ‘why?’ would not come up.

    • littlemissw says:

      I’m glad you liked it.

      It seems to be very common, doesn’t it, this feeling of ‘well, I’m here. So what?’. I wonder if it’s universal across cultures?

      It’s certainly not an essential need for us to move house, as in we are comfortable, safe, sheltered etc. I suppose it’s more that as our town has grown and the road running beside our house has become noisier, our enjoyment of our space has become less. I wouldn’t say we’re chasing more than we need necessarily…

      Do you know much about the hierarchy of needs? You can only fulfil one once you’ve fulfilled a more basic one – like you can’t fulfil yourself spiritually if you’re not yet fulfilled in terms of food and shelter (I’m simplifying of course). It terms of housing we sort of fulfilled a basic need – a comfortable, safe, space we could call our own – and now we’re looking to fulfil a higher level need – a comfortable, safe, space which reflects our desire for quiet and privacy.

      Now I’m curious…why have you yet to tweak those things that are in need of tweaking?

      • theeditorsjournal says:

        I have not heard of the hierarchy of needs no, but your simplified version makes perfect sense.
        Aha with the home I get you. I’ve heard some horrendous stories of people who retire in a beautiful secluded natural spot only to hear that the diggers are coming in to make it a shopping mall with tower block housing! – A sort of exaggerated scenario of your situation.
        Lol my tweaks require luck, judgement, work and time to settle into place and I’m actually almost 100% sure that I won’t get there and say ‘Is this it?’ I know myself too well. Especially as I’ve already experienced a taste of my version of contentment and appreciated every second of it.

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