We all have different pulls on our time. For me, I have two children (aged 4 and 6), a husband (although he’s pretty self-sufficient it’s nice to actually spend time with him), a writing career that I’m trying to get started, family, friends, neighbours, chores, pets, hobbies, a ‘to-read’ pile. You might have all these and more. The fact is, we all need to balance our lives otherwise we end up overwhelmed and under-satisfied.
For me, it’s about prioritising. My priorities may not be the same as yours but that’s cool because they’re my priorities. It’s all about what works on a personal level. For me, my kids and my husband come first. Every. Single. Time. My kids because they’re dependant on me for just about everything right now. And that is both a joyful and a soul-draining thing. My husband because we’re a team and a team is only as good as the people in it. And I love all three of them so much it’s sometimes painful.
After that, there’s everything else and my priorities here can change where necessary. Personally I try to put the needs of living things (ie. people, pets, plants, my writing) before objects (ie. floors that need vacuuming) but this changes based on need (and, I’ll admit it, levels of guilt). Again, it might be different for you.
Also, I’m not a terribly busy person. I mean, I’m not naturally focussed. I very much ‘hello trees, hello flowers’ in how I approach my life. Now my sister, she is amazing. For a start, she walks in a straight line where as I meander. Meandering is not the most efficient way to get anywhere. She probably gets more done in a day then I get done all week.
She does tri-athlon for God’s sake. I actually include reading as a priority. I’m sure you can see the difference.
But there you go. Balance. And we all find balance in different ways. The important thing is to actually find it because as the saying goes, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. All play and no work makes Jack a mere toy.”
So what about you? Are you as balanced as you’d like to be?