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Do You Lie?

I like to think of myself as an honest person. I was brought up to know that cheating and lying were bad and this is what I teach my children but the truth is, I lie all the time.

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In my family as a child, as in my family now, there was a special place for white lies. Those not-honest-but-not-quite-a-lie things we say. In explaining the concept of white lies to my kids I’ve gone with the definition of, ‘…they’re lies we tell so we don’t hurt someone else…’, but on closer inspection, that’s a pretty dodgy definition. After all, a cheating spouse could make the same claim about their lies (I didn’t tell you I was having it off with the butcher, because I didn’t want to hurt you), but that’s definitely not a white lie.

Unfortunately though, when you think about it, a white lie is often as self-serving as any other lie. They’re the lies we tell to avoid confrontation or guilt. We lie to our friend about her clothes and say it’s to spare her feelings, but in reality it’s to avoid a tricky conversation. We lie to acquaintances and say we’re busy, when really we’re not interested in spending time with them. We lie to ourselves.

More and more, I see white lies like strands of spider’s silk. It seems light and insubstantial but it’s sticky and difficult to rid yourself of and when it clumps together it becomes dusty and unsightly. And you know what they say, what a tangled web we weave, when we practise to my deceive.

On the other hand, how would we get through the day without a few white lies? Would it be an endless wave of conflict and confrontation or would we be freed by our honesty? What do you think?

Everyone has an opinion


I'm an educator, mum and wife living in beautiful Victoria, Australia. I make learning resources for passionate, but time-poor, teachers in need of a better work-life balance. I'm a voracious reader, love a good curry, and believe life is always better with chocolate.

6 thoughts on “Do You Lie?

  1. Hmmm I’d like to proudly declare that yes I lie like a rug given the current (and past) political culture, but I don’t think I do. I don’t do the white lie thing to avoid awkwardness I’d rather just not commit to saying anything. If you ask me if your butt looks big I’m going to tell you the truth, albeit fairly kindly (if I’m in a good mood!) My thing is if you don’t want my truth don’t ask for it.

    I’m sure I do lie but I can’t remember any (at the moment) so they can’t have been big whoppers!

    1. I like that – ‘if you don’t want my truth don’t ask for it’.

      I think you’d probably be in the minority but I also think it’s a good way to be. The truth might hurt sometimes but it’s also a lot more complicated than a lie.

  2. Your text is missing every 3rd letter. But I think it’s the browser? I’ll come back when it’s stopped being crazy. Your previous blog however (you know we have to click from there?) is fine.

    It looks like this: ne d I we t th li r y a d

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