Someone I care about passed away very recently. I don’t want to say too much about it because it’s not really my place to, and it’s pretty raw still. What I do want to say is, there will be times in your life when things happen. Things that hurt. Things that shock. Things that make you reconsider how you live your life, or the priorities you have. When these things happen it will be tempting to stop writing, because to write we necessarily have to have our emotions at the surface, and when we’re hurting this can be very hard.
Unfortunately, if we’re going to go forward as writers we need to keep writing. Just as if we wanted to be dentists or carpenters, we would need to keep showing up and doing our jobs. That’s not to say that we shouldn’t treat ourselves with care and compassion. We definitely should. But the flip side the creativity required to be a writer is the business of being a writer.
When things happen that make us pause with pain, life does go on. It goes on with hurt and grief, with sadness and regret, with loss keenly felt, but it goes on none the less. That is the nature of life. That is the nature of having a job and responsibilities and growing into an adult that others can look to for support and love. You may need to take a breath, but you must keep going.